WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?
Domestic violence is most commonly thought of as intimate partner violence, but can also include violence or abuse from a family member.
This definition makes it OK to say that domestic violence comes either from an intimate partner or a family member.
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TYPES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Whenever people hear domestic violence all that comes to their mind is "sexual abuse" but the truth is that domestic violence cuts across all aspects of life.
This kind of abuse is mostly associated with slapping, kicking, battering, stabbing, shooting, choking. The victims of physical violence do not necessarily end up hospitalized but are left with the stigma of their experience to deal with.
This is simply the destruction of the victim's self worth. It is brought about by persistent criticism, comparison, insult, humiliation and its mostly common among spouses and those in an intimate relationship. It hardly ever stands alone as a form of domestic violence as it is combined with other forms of domestic violence. This is common among men. A woman is known to be naturally loud and outspoken and she says whats on her mind without considering how the recipient feels at the time(man). Women violate men emotionally, they tell them things that they (women ) cannot tolerate.
This is the most common type of domestic violence and it is forceful sexual intercourse. One would ask that how can a man be raped, isn't he so strong? This costly assumption makes the public close their eyes to the fact that men are sexually abused everyday some by their teachers in school, others by their female /male older neighbors and some others by their domestic workers. Yes it happens.
STATISTICS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN
Research has it that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men will experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. (CDC, 2017
Signs Of Domestic Violence In Men.
As a parent or member of the society, it is very important to know the signs associated with male victims of domestic violence . Men are generally egocentric and so most times its difficult to know when they are victimised, but here are a few signs to know.
Drug /Alcohol Addiction.
This sign is usually common among the male teenagers and young adults. Alcohol and drug is seen as an escape route by victims. It is seen as a way the victim takes off his mind from the ugly experience he must have encountered and the truth is that it only worsens the situation as alcohol /drug addiction can further lead to mental illness, kidney problems and many other health negative conditions.
This sign is really common as the victim suffers depression, they become really sad and hurt. They begin to conceive unhealthy thoughts that could end up disastrous. Depression kills slowly because of its over thinking effect.
Everything begins to annoy the victim, the victims usually become very aggressive to prevent future occurrence of experience, they also become really defensive.
Low Self -Esteem
The victims usually begin to have a self -esteem drop just because of previous experience. At thihthis is where withdrawal syndrome comes to place.
There are various other signs of domestic violence in men. It takes being observant to see the signs.
Help! I am a man I am a Victim of Domestic Violence!
You are not alone in it. Statistics shows that half of the victims of domestic violence world wide are men. You read about men like you, that are scared but they do not know they are too embarrassed to talk about it, " Oh! People will think I am a weakling, I am a man for crying out loud", but in being all manly don't forget you are human too and you deserve to be happy.
Talk To Someone
Talking to someone might not be the easiest thing to do,but is usually really cool. "A problem shared is half solved" .A counsellor is always the best person to talk to, they are trained to figure out the best way out of your problem.
A woman who constantly compares you to others, is very insolent and very abusive in your relationship with her, will get worst after marriage, if fixing things doesn't work,walk out. Someone out there will value you. If you are already married then it's necessary to see a marriage counsellor together .
Misconceptions The Society Has About Domestic Violence On Men.
-A child is a child, girl or boy, abuse is abuse ,A boy child is not any different from a girl child emotionally, as the society may presume, more boys have their self esteem reduced everyday from our negligence.
-When a woman is obviously abusing her husband voodoo(black magic) is blamed on, "Na jazz,She Don jazz am", people hardly think that the man is suffering from domestic violence.
-Women don't want to get slapped but slap men first, why start what you can not finish.
-Its OK for a woman to say a whole lot of things without considering a man's feeling, but a man says one thing and he might even get arrested for it.
Finally, I wanna say that "we all have hearts, Men do too. Don't hurt them(men) because they are men, they do not have super strength or they are not super men. They are also human like you and I. Together let's stop domestic violence on men,it starts with you
-Written by Faith Hauwa Adama
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